How much more can a person take?

Lately it seems as if I've become used to dropping people I consider mental and emotional health deteriorating. I waste no time and do not even try to say...."oh maybe they aren't really like this let me give it another try." 

I don't have the time.

When you make yourself available all the time, people rather feel entitled to your time and space instead of handling it with respect and dignity. They no longer value your availability as something precious but view it as something they have every right to access and use irrespective of how it would be inconvenient for you or how it would hurt you.

Whether it's family friends or "relationships" when its time to move, it is time. My love may remain even though it would have certainly changed but never my time, space and availability.

"We have to let go of the incorrect things we've been taught regarding love and relationships if we expect to change for the better. Love is not enough to keep one happy in a relationship if your needs aren't being met. Protect your joy!" (Frank C. Johnson)

The horrible thing I've seen people do (and even done myself) is to give excuses for those who mistreated them. They would say things like "he didnt mean to hit me. It was my fault because I annoyed him and I shouldn't have done what I did", "He didnt mean to cheat and its all my fault because i eat too much and it turns him off. The way i dress too is not nice so I'm even going to buy new clothes next week so that he would appreciate me better" 

Eh? Eh? Eh? EH?!!!! ARE YOU MAD. SO VERY MENTAL!!!!!

"Sometimes you have to love yourself enough to end a relationship that you think you'd hate  to leave. Just  because you love or have loved someone, have or have had a long history with them, children or even married to them, does not mean that you are obligated to spend the rest of your lifetime, trying to make a relationship you are not happy in work. Square pegs don't fit in round holes. Leaving someone to become happy is an option so use it. Love intelligently." (Frank C. Johnson)

You teach people how to treat you with what you are willing to accept and compromise,all in the name of "love"

Your husband/boyfriend  cheats on you and you think it's OK to stay and give him another try because for better for worse.I have noticed men hardly ever give cheating women another chance. I will not kill myself and certainly will never allow anyone to kill me so I will leave the very first time it happens and I find out. God doesn't expect you to sit around mediocrity. Someone would think I'm encouraging divorce and separation but that's not it. One time becomes a habit just because you forgave and let it slide. Forgiveness does not mean you should become anyone's fool. I can forgive you but at that moment I will need to protect my life and heart from potential harm and danger which would be you (the person that hurt me). Sitting around waiting for you to change would cause me to lose myself in the long run and I'm never ready to make that sacrifice for any person. Jesus lost Himself for you, literally ALL of Himself and I am very sorry but i will not dare take His untakable position in your life. I can't take his responsibility. He is your saviour and I am not. 

I have seen and heard men and women endure so much abuse in the name of love and marriage and they decide to still stay and die out of frustration. Then they say "God is in control" or "I am not trying to thwart God's plans, He knows what he is doing." HAS GOD ASKED YOU TO HELP HIM TO BE GOD? You stay trying be the miracle in someone's messed-up attitude and life and die out of that instead of getting out to preserve the rest of you that's left for service to God.

IT IS BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN DIE OUT FRUSTRATION IN ATTEMPT TO BE THE MIRACLE AND GOD IN SOMEONE'S LIFE. 

I used to ask people to tell me how to handle certain problems but what I've realized now is that I really didn't have to handle them AT ALL! Because they were not my problems. It was not my business continuously socializing, interacting, encouraging and allowing those I knew were potential damage, into my life. 

They came in with their problems and made me feel like I was the problem, saying things like "Get your sh*t together" when they needed to get their sh*t together, not mine, because I knew what I wanted and have always known what I wanted. So now I know I clearly didn't have to get any "sh*t" together based on the circumstances even though I have my many flaws and reacted in some wrong ways. They did me wrong and I complained because I know my rights. 

The worst thing  you can do to a person is make them feel mad when they complain and act like you don't know what you're doing. 

Stay away from, people like that to preserve your souls and peace of minds. 

Do not encourage people to continue to abuse you just because you're scared to be lonely. You will kill yourself. I stuck around some people and endured some companies because I feared that I would be alone and have no one to talk to or laugh at my jokes so I'll probably be laughing at my own jokes. But today, I can confidently say I am better off without them and do not crave their company even the least bit. I've grown out of that type of friendship and now I crave real sensible friends, not many, but a few and I think God has blessed me with that. 

Some women feel they have lost it all to one man and so they refuse to move even though clearly by his actions, not words (because his words may be deceptive)  he has moved on already.

I'm here to tell you today that you didn't lose it all. You are alive today and still have everything which is life.

REAP THE HARVEST GOD PROMISED YOU

TAKE BACK WHAT THE DEVIL STOLE FROM WHICH IS YOUR LIFE AND IF YOU ARE ALIVE TODAY READING THIS, YOU HAVE IT ALREADY

RECOVER IT ALL!

Snatch back what you lost because you have the power to. Read psalm 8 and see how much power God has given you.

Never be scared to be alone because trust me you are good. 

Lastly never make anyone feel too comfortable in your life.

"If someone does not love you the way you need to be loved, it is your responsibility to not accept it." (Frank C. Johnson)

"The question isn't why is he/she mistreating you, the question is why are you accepting it?!" (Frank C. Johnson)