I've had to learn bitter painful lessons in life because i was refusing to understand this simple concept of self love. I did ridiculously painful things to myself over and over again because i never actually thought that i ever needed to take care of myself and my heart.

I endured all types of bullshit from people thinking sitting around and tolerating their nonsense would let them understand how much i loved them and eventually gain some form of acceptance. I never thought i needed to take care of my heart. 

The way you allow people to treat you may only be a reflection of how much you value yourself !!!!!!!

The type of nonsense you are willing to sit around is a clear depiction of what you think of yourself. Now that i have become aware of myself, there are days when i ask myself why I allowed and gave people so much power over my heart and love when it was my responsibility to keep them safe. SOMETIMES, in friendships and relationships, before anyone can cause you pain, you have to allow it, consciously or unconsciously. 

That point of realizing how much damage i had done to myself and how much time i wasted in desperately trying to find love and acceptance in others or the wrong places instead of looking into myself; surprises me now sometimes. There are days when i wonder why accepting and appreciating all the abundance of love in me qualified by the love that Jesus expressed by dying for me; had never been a thought to consider.

Always remember you are in control of what you accept. If it doesn't validate your worth, then stop giving it access to your life. Break free of the things that don't bring you peace!!!!!!

The fact it took me so long to accept this hardcore truth deepened the depression i was already experiencing from the pain and rejection i had suffered in the hands of people i sincerely cared for.

Depression is real. If you're hurting, please don't believe the lies you tell yourself when you're sad!!!!!!!

I would firmly state that it was only my fault to have been treated that way only at the point where i allowed it to happen. I refuse to believe that after this point anything that i had to endure was my fault because people will treat you the way they WANT to for whatever reason it may be that is their motivation, whether you influence their decision or not. There have been moments in my life where i did a friend no harm at all yet this person could calculate and plan exactly how to destroy me and i was shocked the extents that this person would go.

Please never carry the burden of accusing yourself for something someone did to you, You had absolutely nothing to do with that. It becomes your fault ONLY at the point where you allowed yourself to endure such unfairness but it is never your fault whatever that person's actions may have been. If someone treats you poorly or bad in the midst of you being the best that you can be, there is something wrong with that person, not you.

Stay away from people who cant take responsibility for their actions and further make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong!!!!!!!

NEVER BEG TO BE LOVED!!!!!!! 

You are first responsible for your heart before anyone else's. If you cant protect your heart, whats the guarantee that you can truly understand how to love your neighbour and the essence of God's love for you that He would send his only son to die for YOU as one single person first, the reason why every single person has personal journey with Him.

STOP WASTING TIME TRYING TO BE THE MESSIAH IN SOMEONE'S LIFE. SORRY TO BURST YOUR BUBBLE BUT THAT JOB IS RESERVED FOR JESUS BECAUSE HE IS GOD AND YOU CAN NEVER BE. STOP HOPING THAT SITUATIONS WOULD CHANGE. SORRY BUT THEY WONT CHANGE SO DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR AND SAVE YOU DEAR HEART AND LOVE THE TROUBLE OF ENDURING PAIN!!!!!!!

Love your neighbour as YOURSELF!!!! This is the second greatest commandment according to Jesus. 

So let me break this down. Love your neighbour.....OK GREAT...BUT HOW????...As much as you love yourself. Therefore, before you would be able to love anyone else...you should be able to understand how and what it means to love yourself.

HOW DO I LEARN TO LOVE MYSELF???

The true meaning of self-love can be found in God's love. Jesus said the first greatest commandment was to love God with all your heart, mind and soul...And why should that be??? So that you would understand the essence of loving yourself through the love He expresses as you love Him.....THEN, you can truly understand what it means to love your neighbour or people around you.

So if you are steady treating the people you interact with like sh*t and always being mean, you probably don't have the love of God in you and therefore, maybe do not even understand what it means at all to love yourself.🙄🙄🙄🙄👀👀

And if you continue to sit around horrible situations or mediocrity, you probably don't understand how much you mean to God and the lengths He is willing to go for you. It is a sign of no hope and faith and no belief in His love such that you are willing to sit in heartbreaking situations and it now becomes your tea-bread.💅💅💅💅💅☕☕☕☕

If you sit in sh*t too long....you begin to stink like it...and the sad part is that...the abominable smell becomes normal to you....so now you don't even know that you reek of sh*t!!!!!!!😭😭😭😭

TAKE BACK YOUR HEART AND LOVE FROM THE CARELESS HANDS IN WHICH YOU PLACED THEM.....GIVE THEM TO JESUS AND ASK HIM TO GUIDE THE WAY ON HOW TO CARE FOR THESE VERY IMPORTANT THINGS HE PLACED IN YOU...REBUKE IT IN JESUS NAME THAT YOU WOULD TOLERATE ANY NONSENSE FROM ANY PERSON NOT JUST WITH YOUR MOUTH BUT WITH YOUR ACTIONS!!!!!!!!

There would be times on this journey that you will feel like you have failed and once again given people the opportunity to break you and that can also be very depressing. But the good thing is that God has promised that He will always fix the broken pieces so you don't even have to do any fixing....He will fix it for you...However be ready when he gives the instruction to wipe your tears...pack your bag and move...He will be there every step of the way.

I remember a year or so ago I would dm Bra Fiifi on his talk to Bra Fiifi sessions on snap and tell him what i was going through and always he would give me this one reply...YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF....i would get so angry and ask myself that out of everything i said this is all he could say to me.....but now i understand....

Guard your heart and love yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💛💛💛💛💛💛🥂